Moms often tell me that their daughters talk but their teen sons don't open up and just answer with one word or "I don't know." Here's what teen boys have to say about why they tend to avoid talking:

1. They don't feel comfortable talking about their personal life with you.

2. They want to begin feeling independent from mom and begin creating more private space.

3. They don't want to talk about it right now.

4. They know the answer but they feel they aren't good at expressing themselves and would rather not talk at all than risk doing it poorly.

5. They don't know the answer and they don't want you to know that they don't know.

6. They think the topic is too personal or embarrassing.

7. They have different values from you and don't respect your opinions.

8. They don't like talking to you because they feel criticised and judged.

Does this mean that you can't have a decent conversation with your teenage son? No, not at all. But you can't force it. When you back off and let your son know that the door is open, he can choose to come to you. When he does, listen without interrupting and without feeling compelled to give your advice or opinions unless you're asked. These two small shifts on your side, can change the communication dynamics between the two of you because your son now experiences a deeper level of respect from you.

All the best-

Barbara

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