Research shows that on average parents spend only 15 minutes per day conversing with their kids! This statistic becomes more alarming when you consider that one of the unique characteristics of today’s kids is that they crave personal connection (you’ll find the full list in Coach Your Teen to Success). If they can’t get it within the family, they’ll go elsewhere.

We all know that kids spend hours talking to their friends on cell phones or forming connections with other preteens (and teens) on sites such as myspace.com.  That’s old news. What IS new is the energy that youngsters are putting into celebrity worship nearly 24/7. Even elementary school kids are getting in on the act by logging on to Internet chat rooms, arguing about who is the more devoted fan.

When kids feel that they have an actual relationship with their teen idol, then you know that they’re crossing the line into having an unhealthy obsession.

If you are a parent of tweens, consider these suggestions for spending more time with your kids and helping them process what they are seeing on screen:

1. Together with your child make a list of possible shows to watch that they can pick from rather than letting them see whatever is on, or arguing about which shows are OK every week. Be sure to engage in a two-way dialogue about the merits of each show to help your children cultivate informed viewing.
2. Make time to watch some of the shows your kids are watching. This way, you’ll be able to have lively discussions about the show and be able to offer up an adult’s view for their consideration.
3. Use some of these conversation deepeners: If you could produce a show, what would the title (or plot) be? Which actors would you select to star in it? Then, listen fully and acknowledge your child's ideas.

Have fun!

Barbara

Barbara McRae,   My Blog
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