Also, five participants told me about their own positive physical touch experiences that have touched each of them emotionally for life. The connections and feelings we have regarding our early touch experiences, unfortunately, are not always positive. However, most everyone I know can remember at least one experience that stands out as a warm memory that has helped them in times of turmoil.

Our newest generation of parents so want to know the right things to do in raising their children. When I compare how I was raised with how I raised my children (much better) and how my daughter raises her children (much, much better), I am filled with admiration and hope. Watching a young mother with her child in her lap gently massaging the child's legs, hugging, petting and kissing her brought up a "ga-ga" feeling for my friend who described this scene. She commented that just watching this positive mothering experience reverberated to others in the room. It lightens us up and feels good. However, another friend commented that she feels a little jealous and sad when she sees such nurturing childhood touch because she didn't get it. At the same time, however, she is amazed by it.

These are examples of the all too often unrecognized power of touch. Notice the quality of your touching. Ask for the type of touch you need, and encourage your loved ones to ask you for the touch they need.